Conflict
Conflict Resolution Questions for Couples
Use these questions during conflict to move from blame to clarity and practical repair.
2/19/2026 · 1 min read
When tension rises, the goal is not to win. The goal is to understand and repair.
Questions that de-escalate
- What did you hear me say?
- What part hurt most?
- What did you need in that moment?
- What assumption are we making right now?
Questions that rebuild
- What can I own in this situation?
- What would repair look like to you?
- What should we do differently next time?
Keep tone calm and keep sentences short.